Not that we’re having another baby any time soon, but this had some interesting information about why I had PPROM with Bug.
It’s a regional recall – for my southern mommies.
I seem to keep stumbling upon mommy reality articles and posts this week that really speak to me.
Daddy Bug’s work friend forwarded this to him and he passed it along to me. Don’t Carpe Diem shares the pressure moms are put under to enjoy every single moment of having and raising their children. I identify with the author’s opinion that there are plenty of moments in parenting that just plain suck, and how someone getting in your face and saying, ‘Isn’t this great?!? Why aren’t you beaming with joy?!?’ makes you feel guilty about not feeling that way all the time. But she turns it around and gives the article a positive spin on how she really does enjoy being a mom, just in her own, realistic way. (No unicorns and hearts and rainbows.) I won’t give away the end, you really just have to read the article.
To the Mother with Only One Child was meant for me for three reasons:
1. I have only one child, currently.
2. It’s posted on the National Catholic Register, which was a happy surprise. (Not the kind of thing I’d expect on a Catholic news site).
3. Two of my mommy friends (who don’t know each other) separately shared the post on Facebook.
The author does an amazing job of explaining what it’s like being a first time mom, in the same realistic vein as “Don’t Carpe Diem”. You have to learn everything from mistakes and experience. You agonize over all the little things. You go a little crazy and wonder why motherhood isn’t the satisfying experience everyone said it would be. And there’s that ever-present feeling of guilt about everything you feel and do. And so you think to yourself, ‘How does anyone ever go on to have more than one child?’ I was comforted by the author’s opinion that it does get easier with more children, if only in the practical sense. You don’t have to learn everything new (diaper changes, nursing, making bottles, etc.) and even if it’s a little different with each child, you at least have attempted it before. Your older children want to be your helpers. You now know what can be let go, and what is absolutely necessary. The one thing doesn’t change is that it takes work to raise kids. I don’t plan on having 9 children like the author does, but she does a wonderful job of explaining the transformation of becoming a completely different person, a mom. “Dear mother, don’t worry about enjoying your life. Your life is hard; your life will be hard. That doesn’t mean you’re doing something wrong—it means you’re doing it right.”
I guess my take away from all my mommy reading this past week is that parenting and being a mom is a long, hard, process full of work. It’s exhausting and you never know if what you’re doing is right. PARENTING ISN’T FOR SISSIES! But there are moments of true happiness, laughter, and love along the way. And as my mom has shared with me, one day your children grow up into successful adults. And that is a true accomplishment.
A few interesting items I’ve come across the past few weeks:
- This artist’s work is very cool! He takes children’s artwork (in this case, drawing of monsters), recreates them, and paints them so they look realistic. How creative!
- This study was performed on mommy rat brains. If the same information holds true for humans, the “mommy brain” lasts forever!
“Fetuses share cells with their mothers, a strange phenomenon called microchimerism. Fetal cells pass through the placenta and lodge in a mother’s body, where many remain quietly for years. One 2005 study found that in pregnant mice, these fetal cells hang out in the brain, especially in smell-related areas that are crucial for recognizing offspring. No one yet knows what, if anything, these fetal interlopers do there, or whether fetal cells in humans are similarly drawn to mothering-related areas of the brain.
Some of the brain changes during pregnancy may help mothers become more attuned to their infant when it is born, Glynn suggests. Fetal movements that tickle a woman’s unconscious might prepare her to bond with her infant, for example. Likewise, changes in brain areas associated with emotion and memory could prime women for caregiving.”
- Finally, this study was done with humans and their small children. Turns out that babies who have sleeping problems tend to have them when they’re older children too. Eek! BUG, PLEASE SLEEP BETTER!!! (We’re finally back to just one wakeup at night for a bottle… had a few bad nights of 3 or 4 wakeups for seemingly no reason at all.)
Eek! I never was into these seats to begin with because they seemed like a bit too much money for yet another baby seat. (Bug has his swing, his bouncy chair, his jumpy contraption, and his high chair…)
I guess the moral of the story is always research what baby equipment you buy or register for (and the company that produces it), always register your baby equipment with the company in case it does get recalled, and don’t put mobile babies who can sit on their own in a chair designed for babies who still need supported sitting.